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Since April 2025, I’ve been writing regularly on LinkedIn. A few posts are below. The full archive is here.
Grief doesn’t always look the way we expect. Alongside sorrow, there can be relief, especially when someone we love has been in pain. That feeling doesn’t diminish love. It often reflects it.
Accountability that stops short of the top teaches people more than any code of conduct ever will. They read the exceptions, not the rules, and calibrate their behaviour accordingly.
For many suicide attempts, the time between deciding and acting is less than ten minutes. What feels permanent often isn’t. Sometimes, a simple question can be enough to bridge that gap.
Choosing AI over people may feel easier. The question is what we lose when relationships stop challenging us.
A forgotten handbag left on a car roof all day should be gone in minutes in most cities. In Singapore, it wasn’t.
Festive seasons, ironically, can be times of loneliness. A bit of structure, small acts of connection, and easing the pressure to feel festive can make the day more manageable, even meaningful.
When death feels distant, purpose can too. But facing it, even briefly, has a way of cutting through the noise and bringing clarity to what actually matters.
Concerns about misconduct and false accusations are changing how people mentor and connect at work. The risk is a workplace that becomes more cautious, but also less open, with consequences for trust and development.
Leadership isn’t tested in calm moments. It shows up in how you react when you’re triggered. Without self-awareness, those reactions can quietly cause real damage. (Examples: Elon Musk, Jacinda Ardern)
Whether you’re struggling or gifted, being different often teaches the same lesson: don’t stand out. Over time, people stop speaking up, and something important gets lost.
Humour that pokes at leaders may feel irreverent, but it plays a serious role in keeping power in check.
Two people get engaged. Four people enter the relationship: who they are, and who the world expects them to be.
A recent viral moment raised a familiar question in my work with senior leaders: what happens when a private mistake becomes a public event?
We like to think of growth as tidy, cumulative, or maybe even satisfying. But it doesn’t always work that way.
I went in expecting to battle meditation classics: a racing mind, restlessness, and desire. But, nope, that’s not at all what happened.
Our belief that we “need” things to be different before we can be okay causes tremendous distress.
After a personal loss and three months in silent meditation, I came back with a few things I want to say about leadership, psychology, performance, and the strange overlap between them.
The Tiger hears the toxic thought, “You’re still weak and pathetic," and longs for the next fight to free him of that voice inside his head.
Hallucinogens are touted as having tremendous potential for psychological and leadership development. But is the hype justified?
Distinctions between executive coaching and psychotherapy for both professionals and clients.
With more than a third of adults experiencing significantly more stress at this time of year, here are 5 tips that may help
WATCH
Ella Podcasts
I co-host Ella Podcasts with Ella Sherman, exploring the emotional terrain of life’s harder moments: grief, anxiety, burnout, loss, and what people rarely say out loud. Each episode features two guests sharing lived experience, alongside a clinical perspective. Named Best Mental Health Podcast in Singapore at the 2026 Evergreen Awards. Selected episodes below; full archive here.
Talks & Interviews
What Your Traumas Say About You on the Just Saying podcast - October 2025
Peak performance and self-sabotage, presented at The School of Positive Psychology (2024)
The Butterfly Effect and the Psychology of Peak Performance
TEDx UWCSEA Dover (2022)
"Digital Love"
Channel NewsAsia (2015)
"How Birth Order Affects Your Love Life?"
Channel NewsAsia (2014)
"How Many Friends Do We Really Need?"
Channel NewsAsia (2014)
LISTEN
Morning Shot: Why Leadership Starts with Self-Awareness (Oct 2025)
ARTICLES by OTHERS (since 2025)
The C-suite Playbook for Mental Wellness — Robb Report Singapore (2025)